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Whether it’s a friendship or an intimate relationship, there is nothing worse than being in a toxic relationship. If you’ve ever been in a toxic relationship, you know the affect that it has on your mind, body, and spirit. Many people don’t realize that it’s the relationship that is affecting them until it is almost too late to salvage the relationship and set healthy boundaries or end it completely before psychological damage is done.

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Toxic relationships will make you question your intuition — that gut feeling. They make you second-guess yourself and wonder if you’re seeing things clearly and if…


Being self-righteous means that an individual is believing that they have the final authority, they say that it’s coming from God, but they’re basing it on their own self beliefs; whatever is suiting them the best in a given situation. Being self-righteous is a paradox. The individual is saying that they serve God or a higher power, but still taking final direction from themself. This type of behavior gets tricky for those who come from a religious or spiritual background because you may want to try and see their perspective and deny yourself and your beliefs. You may question if…


At some point, everyone experiences varying degrees of setbacks. How we deal with these challenges can shape the outcomes of our lives. The good news is that there are ways to build resilience. Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress. There are many stressors out there including conflict with interpersonal relationships, health problems, workplace, and financial. They all add up as a heavy weight to carry on a day-to-day basis. Building resilience is key in order to face challenges and not be knocked down completely…


Society teaches young girls that they are designed to be a princess and their life is like a fairytale. We plant seeds in their mind with movies and television shows encouraging a princess like complex that focuses on pretty things, putting herself at the center of attention, and obsessing about their looks. While this can be fun and whimsical when a girl is a toddler, it can also set the tone for how she develops into a young woman. Society teaches girls to be pretty, kind, and to always ask for help. Problem solving is too complex for a princess…


Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories. Gaslighting can occur in personal or professional relationships. It can be very subtle and they try to “correct” your way of thinking, contradict your statements, or invalidate your emotions. The victim is left questioning their sense of identity, self-worth, and well-being. Manipulative people who engage in gaslighting do so to earn power over their victims. They want any blame or guilt to be pushed off from them and tightly saturated on to someone else. They take great pleasure in this…


Since COVID-19 has been on our minds daily — let’s use the vaccination as an example. Are you supporting the need for everyone to be vaccinated against COVID-19? Maybe you’ve already been vaccinated. Maybe you’re still on the fence on what to do. Whatever your preference, now ask yourself which way your parents, family members, and friends support? How does that make you feel about your preference? No need to comment if you have or haven’t been vaccinated. But what evidence, research, and views are creating this preference for you? Think about it.

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When we turn to research, it shows…


The more I work in mental health, the more I realize the need for people to be heard. In society, we categories people, label them, and define their story based on an underlying perception. That person talks too much and has a lot of energy so they must have an attention deficit disorder. That person has been divorced multiple times so they must be unstable. That person has a lot of tattoos and piercings so they must be trouble. And, the list goes on. The sad part is that we are forgetting the basics of human needs— connection! The more…


Have you ever been in a destructive relationship with someone and you didn’t know how to get out of it, or you’ve seen toxic patterns repeat in your relationships and you don’t know why? It’s like you had a really bad face lift and you don’t know how to fix it. You put in the time and effort to “perfect” yourself in hope someone will love you back. Then, you realize that this relationship doesn’t feel so good anymore. You’re seeing the same toxic patterns over and over again. You hope for the best so you put on a fake…


I know this sounds extreme but grad school literally took “my life” out of me. Before grad school, I was working full-time at a salary position with great benefits and a heavy flow of income. I had my own place, my own dog, and a social life. Life was good. Being an overachiever as I am, I applied to grad school to further my goals of becoming a licensed clinician in the field of mental health. I really do want to help people and end the stigma of mental illness. I had big dreams, big goals, and big expectations.

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Have you ever wondered why most of your relationships seem so shallow? The conversations cover surface topics like a popular Netflix show, the weather, and what you’re cooking for dinner. Then, you find yourself unsatisfied and hungry for a deeper connection. You wonder if others can even meet your level of expectations of connecting. You’re not alone. Let’s first define what a shallow relationship is and why most people choose to circle around a one inch deep level of connection.

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The word shallow means something that is not deep; typically a surface that is only an inch deep. When we…

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